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Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Motherhood: Surprise! Rosemond is right-on!
“Solve Your Child’s Behavior Problems” was the subject of an e-mail I received from a parenting Web site.
Curiosity piqued, I clicked in to discover drop-down boxes where you select your child’s age and behavior problem such as aggression, tattling, tantrums and more.
While the advice was not bad per se, I just don’t see myself having a drawn out conversation with my 3-year-old about why his hitting is unacceptable and the way he is “feeling” is OK. He has the attention span of a gnat.
My mother would have to only give us “the look” in order for us to snap back in line. I give Nick “the look,” and he thinks it is funny to see what I will do next. Seriously frustrating.
Our son Noah, is a pretty easy kid. He has his moments, but is far from challenging. So why such the difference in Nick? Nearly age 4, Nick should be done with the “Terrible Two’s.”
Additionally, I question my mothering skills almost daily. Parenting advice books are available in abundance, but they confuse me. Then, I was turned on to “Parenting by the Book” by John Rosemond.
I never liked Rosemond’s advice especially when he said a child could/should be potty trained by an absurdly young age. Desperate not to raise heathens though, I gave the book a chance.
Surprise No. 1: It is a Christian faith-based book. Yes, from Rosemond, a psychologist, who calls himself out saying, “I am absolutely convinced that modern psychology has done more harm than good to the American family.” Surprise No. 2: I loved the book and couldn’t agree more with Rosemond.
He proceeds to point out the flaws in “Postmodern Psychological Parenting (PPP).” Flaws indeed. My parents certainly didn’t feel the need to “explain” their rules. Rosemond explains that PPP has caused parents to lower their expectations of children and essentially, “time-out” doesn’t work.
No kidding.
It’s been a trying transition, but I am keeping this simple logic in mind when I have to “go Rosemond” (no, it’s not violent) on my child.
We continue to be tested, but are striving for consistency.
Regardless of your personal beliefs, this one is worth the read, and hopefully one day my children — and yours — will thank us for this.
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