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Monday, June 15, 2009
Am I a bad mother or a good mother?
Mommy bloggers recently began declaring themselves bad mothers, proclaiming that bad is the new good.
They aren’t being arrested for crimes and their children aren’t neglected. They are just going against what society and many parenting books deem “good mothers.”
One blogger admits to a few crimes against motherhood including using disposable diapers, letting her children watch television too much and allowing them to eat cookies for breakfast.
Another mother says she turns on autopilot most days and raises her children the best she knows how.
I still consider myself a rookie to motherhood. My daughter will turn a year old in a about a month and every day it seems like we run into something new - like why does she keep throwing herself backward whenever she doesn’t get her way and then cry harder when she hits her head on the nearest object?
All of that aside I’m trying to be the best mother I can be, but I am in no way perfect.
I’m sure there will be days when I let me her watch too much television so I can get something done around the house. She might have to settle for fast food once in awhile. She will most likely go to public schools.
Parenthood doesn’t fit any guidelines. The books and experts can give us an idea of what to expect but I’ve never read a book that told me what to do when poo ends up on the ceiling.
I do know that my daughter is loved, more than I thought even possible.
I don’t love her less if I give her a Cheeto. I don’t love her less if I let her nap in my arms instead of her crib. I don’t love her less if I look the other way when her father buys her a Happy Meal.
In all that can happen in a day with children, I think the best any of us can hope for is to still love our children, be thankful that they are healthy and laugh about any mishaps along the way.
So do you consider yourself a good or a bad mother?
